I don't know what to do anymore. I just don't.?

My life is over... I don't care!! I don't really want to hurt myself or cause myself anymore pain, but I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO RELEASE MY FEELINGS IN A HEALTHY WAY!!

I just don't know what to do.
Answer:
"S" is nuts and doesn't understand the truma you are going through. Please accept my sincere sympathy in your great loss.

What you are experiencing, among other things, is Post-partum depression brought on by the sudden separation of the baby from your womb. I'll try and explain part of it. Your body was all settled in, hormones adjusted, and ready to carry the baby for 9 months. Suddenly it was ripped from you (through miscarriage) before time. Now you are throwing off those hormones and your body is struggling to balance the remaining ones. What you need is plenty of rest in a quiet place so you can grieve. Just don't let it take too long because that isn't good for your mental health.

Another baby won't replace the one you lost, but I do hope that, in due time, you can have another one.

I also hope that your family will stop fighting you over your pregnancy at such a young age and start to realize that what's done is done and cannot be changed. They need to drop the issue and try to help you recover. If you feel that you need help, please call your pastor, teacher, school counselor, or best friend and talk until you get relief.

My prayers are with you.

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See a theropist

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Call up a friend and vent. Vent everything. NEVER EVER think about hurting yourself, or taking away your life. It's selfish. When you do that, to me, it's not thinking of other people. It's just thinking about yourself.

And there is ALWAYS a way out of everything and anything!
So.. just call up a friend and vent. Tell her how you feel. Listen to some music, go on a run. Draw, watch television.

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Hruting yourself is horrible! Please don't do this to yourself. I could help yuo more if you told me what was wrong. Please don't do anything drastic! Release your feelings? Talk to a psychologist, your family, a friend...ANYONE! Juat DON'T do anything to hurt yourself!

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martial arts
writing a diary
painting
screaming

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Okay, now what you need to do is talk to some one. Call the crisis center and find some one that you can talk to. I'm hearing only negatives here and you need to turn that around and look for some good things, some times that takes a bit of work , but it can be done. I do it.
I am sorry you had a miscarriage,and although you are young that doesn't make the loss hurt any less, and I hope you are physically okay, you still need to talk to some one .

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You should be happy you had a miscarriage, you're only 16! If you had a child now, it would ruin your life!

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Yes, hopelessness is a terrible feeling. Most people are afraid to confide in someone because they don't know what kind of reaction they will receive. Usually, if you're able to talk about the root of your problem, you will feel a lot better.

I would talk to a physician or therapist since they are trained to provide help with problems like yours. Doesn't mean you are crazy. It just means you are having a hard time dealing with a personal problem.

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maybe it just wasnt meant to be. you have a whole life ahead of you. you're just 16...finish high school, go to college, live your life. do something you have passion for. right now talk to someone closest to you. or write your feelings down on a piece of paper. cry.

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You are going through a tough time, yes. And i give you alot of credit. i'm 16 too, so i know some of the teenage strugles ur going thru. But you have to realize that you are the one who controls your life, and that as bad as things seem, they don't last for ever. Its just a hurdle that you have to get over. I've dealt with ALOT of hurdles, and sometimes its tough because it seems liek theres noone you can talk to about them. You feel like you want to bottle everything up inside of you, but its good to let out how you feel. Idk if you have a close friend who you can vent out to, or a family member. But what you should really do is make sure you are healthy especially because of the miscarrage. then maybe try talking to your parents, or maybe ven a therapist, because they really do help. And what about your boyfriend? Are you still in contact with him? Email me if you want to talk, or if u have an im. My email's jnridella@yahoo.com

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We all have something to live for and you are young. You don't know what good things are in store for you ahead in your life. You have a whole lifetime to go.

At times we all think there's no hope but we are stronger after getting through those tough times and they help us grow.

It may have been a godsend that you miscarried..There might have been something wrong, or problems down the road.

Get youself involved in something helpful to others, working in an animal shelter or volunteer work in a hospital.

Go out for a l walk around the block to get away from home for a few hours, but don't hurt youself.

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Sweetie- There is so much to live for. It may seem impossible to think that way at this very moment, but there is.

Find someone you can talk to if you can't talk to your parents. Do what you are doing right now and create a journal and pour your feelings out that way. Start here, and others will respond to you as I have and you can find your strength with the help of others who have been there and survived.

You are meant to be here for a reason...don't give up so early on in your life.

(((hugs)))

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Yours is a quite normal initial reaction to this situation, and there is a grieving process necessary for you to go through, to make a recovery to wellness again. I expect that you can't see this right now, because of your pain, but understand, and accept that YOU WILL GET OVER THIS, and, although memories fade over the years, many women sometimes look back decades, with a twinge of sadness and regret, wondering what might have been. Others, not so much. See self harm, and depression treatments, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on pages 4, and 2, and practise daily, and when needed, one of the relaxation techniques. Also use the guided meditations on page 3. Contact teenline on 1800 272 TEEN (8336) 2 - 9 PM, M-F. http://www.neoteenhelp.org/ and http://www.teenline.online.org/... Face to face counselling would be preferable. Talk with someone, though, soon, and express those feelings.

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