I don't know what to do with myself, please help...?

Lately i am having trouble talking to people, i get so nervous and worked up and my face turns red.. and now i'm afraid to talk to anyone, even my boss or people i've known for awhile becuase i'm afraid my face will turn red.. my friends would describe me as outgoing, funny, and not shy at all, for that's how i have ben until now, but now this is happening and i don't know why.. i feel like all of a sudden i lack confidence in myself and i just don't want anyone to look at me.. for my face will turn red, it's so stupid sounding but is really effecting my life now.. i am going through a lot of big changes, just finished college, work at my first full time job, broke up with this really ***** of a girl who really messed me up, and i blame myself too for letting it happen, my dad just had a storke and can't walk anymore, my brother was arrested for child pornography, i just feel like i lost myself and have no direction, at least in college i had a plan i was doing something, please help
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first of all... I know we love our loved ones BUT we have to love OURSELVES brother was arrested for Porn Big Deal it was NOT you... Dad love him the best you can and has much as you can. When the day comes you will remember the love you gave him and bot have one guilty bone in your body. The girl is the least of your worries. I am much older than you and I am going through the worst time I have experienced on this earth BUT I still have confidence and I still hold my head high. WHY because we are all somebody. You are a big somebody. YOU just FINISHED college. so you know how many people would like to say that? You have a full time job do you know how many people would like to say that? You just think it is bad but it isn't I cam tell you are a great person just by reading through your lines. You can't lose yourself unless you want to be lost. You don't want to be lost because here you are talking to me. See you are not lost at all Chin up have fun, whip this job and advance to the next one. Love your dad and as for the girl whoopee do dah She is the loser because she lost you. Talk to me whenever. YOU ARE GREAT. so go live life to it's fullest.

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lol "my brother was arrested for child pornography" id be embarrased about that to. Mabye u should see a shrink

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Slow down and start concentrating on you. Life isn't perfect, we all have struggles to deal with. As far as your confidence goes try to tell yourself you have enough going on in your life to take on people and how they see you. Coping with your dad, your brother and your break up is already difficult as it is, those are problems that would require more than a fix but your confidence situation is easy to repair just tell yourself you are too strong to let yourself become this person.

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I THANK YOU SHOULD READ THE HOLLY BIBLE AS YOU DO THAT GO AND DRINK A TAB ENERGY AND IT SEES IN THE BIBLE THAT IT IS A SIN TO WEARY THAT IS IF U HAVE A BIBLE AND BELIEVE IN GOOD THAT DIED ON THE CROSS TO SAVE U AND YOUR FRIENDS AND LET YOUR DAD LIVE PAST THAT STROKE SO DON'T WEARY BE HAPPY!!

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Dude just calm down take a deep breath and simply relax. The cause of your problem is stress your brain is just being overloaded with all the drama happening in your life. Just take some time to do something u enjoy and when ur doing that try to forget about ur other problems. After u take a breather start reorganizing your life one step at a time. Start by sorting the out the bigger problems first then move to the minor ones. Plus u need to talk to your friends even if ur embaressed that your face will turn red. If they are true friends they will understand and try to help you out with some of your issues. Sometime life suck's and the only thing you can do is deal with it as calmly as u can.

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God loves you, and you are precious to Him. Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation, and qualifying us to Heaven. Just come to Jesus with genuine repentance and faith, and you will find a life with peace, joy, assurance, and meaning. This earthly life is short and uncertain; Heaven is wonderful beyond descriptions, forever without end. Pray earnestly as you have never prayed before. May God bless you. Best wishes for happiness and Heaven!

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Sounds like the start of social anxeity disorder, Or general anxeity d/o, seek help b4 it gets any worse. You are 2 young and have your whole life ahead of you. Stay strong!!

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It sounds like you are going through way too much too handle on your own. Its important to have someone to talk to, and I think that talking to a therapist would definitely benefit you. It dosent mean that there is anything wrong with you, and you should never be ashamed to reach out for help. Im sure everything will get easier in your life, but it seems that you are just trying to cope with too many obstacles and changes at this point. Definitely dont blame yourself for the relationship that you were in. So many people, including myself have had relationships with people who were messed up, or just not good for us. It does not reflect on you as a person! Just think of it as a learning experience that has helped you learn what you want the next time around. Good luck with everything!

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